Monday, July 5, 2010

Marriage and Decision-making

Did you catch this article, Husbands, Wives and Decisions, by Orson Scott Card this month?
Good marriages have disagreements, and they don't have to be hidden away or denied. You don't have to be a doormat by giving in on issues that matter to you — as long as you don't try to compel your spouse to give in, either.

Before you speak a word of disagreement with your spouse, especially if you feel angry, you should reach out your hand and say, with your lips and in your heart, "Your happiness and our marriage are both more important to me than anything we ever disagree about."
Wade and I celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary in a couple of weeks, and I can vouch for the do's and don'ts he lists...decisions can wait, no pouncing, men be men and women be women, be a stone, and be kind. We learned some of these by experiencing the opposite, but one way or the other, we learned.

Take a minute to read the article.


Photo credit


  1. I think I could use this article TODAY! ;) Thanks Ellen!

  2. Congrats on 30 years! We will celebrate that milestone next May.


Share your thoughts, but please be respectful.