Showing posts with label visiting teaching. Show all posts
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Sunday, August 12, 2012

Lesson recap: Advancing the work of the Lord



I taught the lesson today. It's George Albert Smith, Lesson 15, Advancing the work of the Lord. Here is part of what we discussed. Do read the whole lesson when you get a minute.

God directs His work, and He calls upon every member of the Church to participate in moving it forward. 

We are doing so much. Besides missionary work, think of all the ways we as women advance the work of the Lord...visiting teaching, callings, service, family history, temple work, teaching our families and other youth, feeding folks, nurturing others, and the list goes on. Every family prayer, every family home evening, every simple act of kindness, every Sunday at church, every session of scripture study is advancing the the work of the the Lord. Let's pat ourselves on the back and acknowledge the good work we women do in the church.

It's a cooperative work. Let's see our work as a cooperative one with our brothers in the gospel. Every calling in the church is a service calling where hierarchy plays no part. Neylan Mcbaine reminds us:
You are needed. You matter. You have a purpose. Your opinions matter. Not just at home behind closed doors, not just with our children, as essential as those influences are, but also in the broadest context of the Lord’s kingdom.

We women need to do a better job of claiming the power and direct access that comes from being a child of God and realizing that power in the choices we make in our own lives. Ours is not a gospel of limitation; it is a gospel of empowerment to get the education we want, pursue our dreams, work in partnerships with spouses and friends to raise families, contribute to our communities as our talents dictate, and seek out answers to our deepest questions without intermediaries.
Inventions of our day are blessings. George Albert Smith embraced technology to do the Lord's work. 
While the first half of the 20th century saw significant challenges (WWI, WWII, the Great Depression), it also brought new technologies that President Smith believed would further the Lord’s work. He was a strong proponent of the aviation industry and saw it as a way to fulfill his travel assignments as a General Authority more efficiently. He also supported the Church’s use of radio and television to take the word of the Lord to a broader audience.

“We ought to regard these [inventions] as blessings from the Lord,” he said. “They greatly enlarge our abilities. They can indeed become blessings if we utilize them in righteousness for the dissemination of truth and the furtherance of the work of the Lord among men. The great challenge facing the world today lies in the use we make of many of these inventions. We can use them to destroy, as we have sometimes done in the past, or we can utilize them to enlighten and bless mankind, as our Heavenly Father would have us do."
Are there ways we can use the technology of today in good ways to do the Lord's work?

Air travel, radio, TV, internet, social media (Facebook, Twitter, Mormon.org, YouTube), smart phones, texting or e-mails, blogging about your faith and your family, crowdsourcing at The Vineyard (indexing, submitting photos, tagging photos) or LDS Tech. While most of these can be used for evil or to destroy let's focus instead on using them to build the kingdom in positive ways.

There is ample opportunity for every member to participate in the work of the Lord.
The responsibility for the conduct of this work does not devolve alone upon [the President of the Church], nor upon his counselors, nor upon the quorum of the Apostles; but it devolves also upon every man and woman who has been baptized by the servants of God and become a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. … We cannot shift the responsibility if we would; our Father has placed it upon our shoulders, and we must round them up and help to carry it off triumphant.
Consider that no one can take your place. This story from Sheri Dew illustrates.  No One Can Take Your Place, page 196-199.)

In 1971 as a shy Freshman at BYU Sister Dew struggled for self-worth. "I wasn't talented enough, thin enough, smart enough, cute enough, or basically anything enough to amount to much." She was homesick and lacked social skills. But she did know how to play basketball.
I had grown up playing basketabll in the great basketball stae of Kansas, and had had some success on the court. More than anything, I wanted to play ball for BYU. So my shyness notwithstanding, I found out where and when team tryouts were being hed and showed up at the gym at a certain hour. but when I pulled open the gym door and peeked inside, a group of girls were already running drills. and they looked good! Clearly, I wasn't in Kansas anymore. Suddenly, every insecure cell in my body began to scream, "What are you thinking? You aren't good enough to play ball here! You can't compete with these girls! What has gotten into your head!" I quickly closed the door and told myself that if I just had a few minutes to regain some composure I would go in. I began to pace up and down the hallway outside that gym, telling myself that at any moment I would go in, I paced and paced...for three hours I paced—until the tryouts were over. I am sorry to say that I never went in.
Now fast foward 30 years. Sister Dew spoke to female athletes at BYU, letting them know she believed they had already accomplished so much. She told this story. Afterwards Dr. Elaine Michaelis approached and said she was the women's basketball coach then, and that it was the only year she had not been able to fill her roster. Her team went that year one girl short.

All the way home Sister Dew stewed. If only she'd had the confidence to try. Maybe she could have made a difference.

The lesson here, from Sheri Dew, is that no one can take your place.
Oh, sure, we have all let others down and watched someone else step in to fill the gap, and we've all at times helped fill in the gap when others have let us down. So yes, it's possible to fill in for someone. But it's not possible to take their place. No now, not ever.

No one can take your place in your family or with your friends. No one can take your place in your ward or your extended family, in your neighborhood or a the company where you work. No one can have the influence you have been prepared to have on all who come within your sphere of influence. Without question, no one can fulfill your foreordained mission. No one can do what you were sent to do. No one.
I think we forget this. Ask the Lord what His will is for you, expect Him to give you the power to carry it out. Know that is may be different for you than the sister sitting next to you. We are here to do our work. And He will give us the power to carry it out.

Doctrine and Covenants 64: 33- 34
 33 Wherefore, be not aweary in bwell-doing, for ye are laying the foundation of a great work. And out of csmall things proceedeth that which is great.
 34 Behold, the Lord arequireth the bheart and a cwilling mind; and the willing and dobedient shall eeat the good of the land of Zion in these last days.

Sisters, it is a great work we are involved in. We can contribute in many ways, both large and small. It's a cooperative work where all hands are needed and appreciated. Blessing await those who are willing and obedient.

Let's do the work in the way women work well...learning, spreading information, tending and befriending, communicating, cooperating, creating community, and seeking balance. These are some ways we can advance the work of the Lord.

e
 



Monday, June 4, 2012

Visiting Teaching Lesson

Aubrey Behunin filled in at the last minute for Sarah Kinghorn to teach this lesson. Both sisters are excellent teachers and I'm so glad to be their student. 


e

Thursday, May 3, 2012

Visiting Teaching

Hi Sisters,

Mary Ellen Edmunds gave a wonderful talk on Visiting teaching at Women's Conference at BYU last weekend, and it's currently available to watch on BYU TV for any of you who are interested in seeing it.

It's only about 28 minutes long, and usually these are only available on video for a short time due to copyrights, so watch it soon if you
want to see it.

Mary Ellen Edmunds is one of my all time favorite speakers. She has such a great sense of humor and ability to relate to all of us, and I really enjoyed hearing her thoughts on visiting
teaching.  Here's the link:

http://byutv.org/watch/a110f820-06ad-48ca-bc82-22abd4cc00cb/byu-womens-conference-mary-ellen-edmunds-2011

Have a great week!
Devon

Sunday, January 30, 2011

Lesson: Your Personal Ministry


Today Bishop Pope talked to the Relief Society and Priesthood brethren about personal ministry in our combined class.

What is personal ministry?
- Reaching out to help others.
- Seeing a need and trying to fill it
- Taking the spiritual gifts we've been given and acting on them
- Accepting and filling callings
- Prayerfully asking Heavenly Father what he wants us to do
- All with the right intent, following the promptings of the Spirit

President Kunz several years ago said, "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. Better yet do unto others as they do unto themselves, but best of all do unto others as God would do unto them." (Jen Low)

We also need to allow others to minister unto us. Sometimes this is very hard. (Bro. Horton)

Bishop: We need to let others serve us, even when the church tells us we should be self-sufficient. It takes humility to admit that we need help.

High Priests were asked by President Coe to give an additional night a week for personal ministry. This may mean where our families need us, or for our own personal spiritual growth, or in some aspect of our calling. We need to step up the effort. (Dave Behunin)

Bishop: Yes, are we having our daily prayers and scripture study? If we are struggling with an aspect of keeping the commandments, sometimes we need to take time out and work on this.

In prayer we may ask for blessings for family members, such as my widowed mother. When the answer may be that we need to give it some thought ourselves about what we can do to help. And not just throw it over the wall to God and go about our way. (Dave Behunin)

Bishop: The scriptures are full of personal ministry, such as Nephi, Alma, Sons of Mosiah, and King Benjamin. In Mosiah 2:16-18 King Benjamin said if I have been in your service I have only been in the service of God. And if I your King can serve then you can too.

What prevents us from performing our own personal ministries?
  • We like to talk the talk, but don't walk the walk (Kellen Wentzel).
  • We are so caught up in busy-ness of life (Elizabeth Latey).
  • Fear. Reaching out one to one may not be part of our nature (Marie Tiller). Remember the first door you knocked on your mission...the fear of rejection or the unknown reaction (Bishop). There are quiet things you can do...genealogy, or something small that works for you. Or we can choose to grow into the role (Craig Clark). But if the spirit speaks we should find a way. The Lord will make up for our shortfall (Elizabeth Latey). Sometimes we are forced to go beyond our comfort zone just based on the circumstances (Cheryl Wentzel).
  • Low confidence, low self-esteem. Bishop: start with baby steps. Do something. Do what you can.
  • Our thoughts are not focused. "We move our lives in the direction of our most dominant thought." (Melanie Low, Reylyn Checketts). [My aside: Perhaps this is why we covenant EVERY week to "always remember Him."]
  • We talk ourselves out of a good action. Never suppress a generous thought - President Monson (Jenn Low).
Examples
Jenny Boyer's neighbors began helping with dinners and offering to do other things after the twins were born. One neighbor now comes almost every day to help after school and at the dinner hour. She is a single woman and needed do a little more in her life and not dwell on negative thoughts. I need the help and she is taking notice of my parenting style. Our hearts are uniting and understanding one another. It goes both ways when we minister. (Jenny Boyer)

If we feel inspired to help more because of this lesson or General Conference, we have to look no further than being a really good visiting teacher. It's already set up for us (Reylyn Checketts).

Bishop: I want to leave this challenge with you. Start with home teaching and visiting teaching. President Coe said it should start there. Do a little more, take it to the next level. It's amazing what that will do for your testimony and you'll see more and more what you can do.

Sometimes the place to start is in our family. We shouldn't neglect their needs in looking to help others. (Kristen Hinchman)

When I was busy with little kids and was a Relief Society President, I couldn't get in to see a woman I was visiting teaching. She never answered. At the store one day I bought a flower and a card and left it at the communal mailbox, hoping she would get it. It was her birthday and I told myself it was my last effort. She called that night and asked how I knew that she loved African Violets. I didn't know but the Lord knows what our favorite flower is. He will help us in our personal ministries if we forget ourselves and listen to Him. (Margie Clark)

Bishop: I think President Monson and other prophets become so close to the Spirit and have listened so much that it's as if the Lord is there speaking to them. We can become more sensitive to the Spirit to and know what the Lord wants us to do.

The Bishop then went on to relate the story of President Monson who as a young new Bishop was prompted to visit an older ward member in the hospital. He put it off until after a church meeting and arrived too late. Let's not ignore the promptings, but act right away.

Thanks, Bishop, for the reminder to seek to know what our personal ministry is, to listen to the Spirit and to act today.

e

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Monday, October 4, 2010

Visting Teaching Inspiration

No matter what circumstances you sisters experience, your influence can be marvelously far-reaching. I believe some of you have a tendency to underestimate your profound capacity for blessing the lives of others.

More often than not, it is not on the stage with some public pronouncement but in your example of righteousness and the countless gentle acts of love and kindness done so willingly, so often on a one-to-one basis.

~ James E. Faust, "You Are All Heaven Sent," Ensign, Nov. 2002, 110

Sunday, September 26, 2010

General Relief Society Meeting

So did you miss it? Can't remember what they talked about? Here were the general themes!

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Just what we should be talking about...strengthening, visiting, working, teaching, and loving each other!

Catch all the talks here...transcripts, videos, and MP3s.

e

Saturday, September 25, 2010

General Relief Society Broadcast

Our RS history teaches us what we should do
We had a nice get-together with the 2nd ward Relief Society before the broadcast began. It was nice to see old friends and hopefully you were able to meet as least one new sister. That is always my goal at such gatherings. The food was good too. Thank you to all who came and contributed.

Watch it here! Broadcast in 82 languages to over 100 countries!!!

Get meeting highlights here.

Now for some thoughts from the speakers...

Sister Julie Beck:
This meeting is a gift to all his daughters who long to know God's mind and will and to understand their responsibilities as Relief Society sisters.

Be watchful, prayerful and inspired...not "silly" women.

Do the essential things everyday - prayer and scripture study.

Know and learn from the history of Relief Society. A new history will be available next year. Our history is valuable because it teaches us principles, purposes and patterns. It elevates and validates the value of women. It demonstrates how we work with the Priesthood brethren.

Sister Allred:
What helps you be steadfast and immovable?
- Knowledge of His love
- Hope of fulfilled blessings
- Knowledge of truth

4 things you can do:
1. Prayer
2. Scripture study
3. Obedience
4. Service

Sister Thompson:
Early sisters of the Relief Society traveled from house to house, moved with compassion, love, mercy, to succor, teach, minister, know and serve. Making a difference.

The beauty of visiting teaching is seeing lives change...having our hearts knit together in love.

To be a better visiting teacher...just LISTEN. Know that it is never "done".

President Monson:
Judge not.

Do no judge another's actions, inaction, words or appearance.

We don't know another's heart or circumstances.

Appearances can be so deceiving.

Charity is the opposite of judging. Charity manifests itself when we are tolerant of others and lenient toward their actions; the kind of charity that forgives; the kind of charity that is patient.

Mother Theresa said, "If you judge people you have no time to love them."

Each one of us is doing the best we can with the challenges that come our way.

e

Friday, July 30, 2010

Have You Seen LDS Maps?


Ward boundaries, households, meetinghouses and FH libraries

LDS Maps is a mashup with Church records and Google Maps where you can find an LDS church anywhere in the world.

Even better is the ability to see where members of the ward live and the ward boundaries. You can get address, phone numbers, e-mails and GPS information.

For this, of course, you need to sign in with your LDS Account user name and password.

The information is pulled from the membership records and the ward membership software (MLS). If something is not correct, contact our ward clerk.

It's in beta testing now so it's a bit slow.

This should be great resource.

Stake boundaries and meetinghouses

Friday, July 9, 2010

New Format for Visiting Teaching Message

Have you noticed the new format for the visiting teaching message in the Ensign?  It's much shorter than it used to be!  Here is the link to the explanation on how best to utilize the changes:



 

Happy Visiting!

Thursday, July 1, 2010

Church News addition to monthly Visiting Teaching message

Each month, the Church News publishes a message to complement the Visiting Teaching message found in the Ensign magazine. This article is based on the July 2010 theme, "Strengthening at every opportunity."

 
This is Sister Julie Maree Beugre Powa from Africa's Ivory Coast.  Sister Powa served as first counselor in the Cocody Ivory Coast Stake Relief Society presidency during the Ivorian civil war in 2002 and is now the stake Young Women president.  She tells of the struggles that the sisters and the families faced during their civil war, and how the gospel helped to strengthen them.

In the Church News article, Sister Powa emphasized how the members relied on visiting teaching and food storage to help them with the difficulties they faced in the Ivory Coast.  In addition to their hard work and provident living needs, here is an excerpt about how the members spiritually handled their struggles.

"We taught them that they should keep their faith; most of them did keep their faith," she said. "You have to rely on God. If you don't have hope, your life is gone. You have to keep praying that the war will stop; you shouldn't give up."

Eventually, the war did end, but members still face difficulties every day. What amazes Sister Powa about her ward and stake are the people who walk miles and hours to and from church, who have tough challenges in life and who sell goods on the street to feed their families when no other jobs are available. These people come to church with smiles on their faces, excited to be part of the gospel, she said.
 
It's a great article, and if you'd like to read the rest of it, you can find it here.  It's so faith inspiring to read how members all over the world use their faith to assist them in their trials, and it makes me want to be better too!  Plus, this gave me a lot more to think about when reading this upcoming month's visiting teaching message.  Strengthening families and homes really can be life and death in different times and areas around the world, and it makes me really think if I could do the same when hard times come to me.  I hope you get a chance to read and enjoy this inspiring article!
 
Devon

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Pics from RS Meeting


Melanie taught the first section on what is 
Essential, Necessary and Nice-to-do in our lives.


Charity taught the second section on how 
we can fortify our families, 
using the example of Moroni from the Book of Mormon.


Elizabeth reminded us that we are to
provide a safety net for each other in our lives 
as we try to balance all the good things that we need to do.


The evening ended with yummy strawberry shortcake. 
Thanks to Charity and all the RS board 
for making it such a nice evening.

Sister Beck's talk reminded us that 
we each need to be in tune with Spirit so we can 
know how to increase in faith and righteousness, 
strengthen home and family, and seek out and help those in need.

(Listen to the talk given by Julie S. Beck
titled “Faith and Values” to review what you heard here tonight.)

e

Sunday, June 6, 2010

Lesson Recap: Prayer

Gospel Principles, Lesson 8
Taught by Ellen King

A review
Prayer is…a sincere heartfelt talk with our Heavenly Father.

Elder Richard G Scott in a talk titled The Supernal Gift of Prayer, given in April Conference 2007 said:
We pray to our Heavenly Father in the sacred name of His Beloved Son, Jesus Christ. Prayer is most effective when we strive to be clean and obedient, with worthy motives, and are willing to do what He asks. Humble, trusting prayer brings direction and peace. 
Don’t worry about your clumsily expressed feelings. Just talk to your compassionate, understanding Father. You are His precious child whom He loves perfectly and wants to help. As you pray, recognize that Father in Heaven is near and He is listening.
We pray to God the Father and no one else.
3 Nephi 18:19-20 - Therefore ye must always pray unto the Father in my name; And whatsoever ye shall ask the Father in my name, which is right, believing that ye shall receive, behold it shall be given unto you.
We pray in the name of Jesus Christ because he is our mediator and advocate with the Father.
1 Tim. 2: 5 -  For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus.
Why do we pray?
  • Commanded since Adam and Eve
  • To draw closer to God
  • That our thoughts, words, actions may be righteous
  • For strength to live the gospel, to stay on path
  • To overcome temptations
  • To confess sins, seek forgiveness
  • For guidance
  • For others - families, friends, neighbors, crops, animals, daily work
  • Protection from enemies
  • To express our love to Him
  • To thank Him, praise
    Cookie Cutters
    Do you feel like your prayers aren’t drawing you closer to God? Are you still giving simple Primary-like prayers?  It’s easy to let our prayers become cookie cutter prayers..the same every time and predictable.

    How can we improve our prayers? What do you do to add more power to our prayers?

    Here are a few ideas that work for me, even though I don’t do these all the time:
    1. Kneeling: a physical act of humbling myself, putting myself in a position of complete vulnerability, a metaphor for submitting my will to Him.
    2. Speaking aloud: Formulating the words and hearing them with my own ears is strengthening and also teaches me about what to pray for.
    3. Making a list of specific names and needs: This is powerful.
    4. Praying whenever and however we need to...sparrow prayers (Matt 10 - even a sparrow shall not fall to the ground without your Father) ...at church, at home, while walking, while working, fixing dinner. This is part of the “always remember Him” covenant we make.
    5. Fasting: Every time I feel I hunger pain I’m reminded to pray about my purpose.
    6. NOTICE the answers and give thanks: Shirley has taught me to praise God more. When she feels a blessing in her life she says “God is good.” Let’s you and I say that more when we feel and see the tender mercies in our lives.
    7. Let thy will be my will. When my whining and selfishness get in the way I lose my way.
    Elder Scott speaks of this key:
    A key to improved prayer is to learn to ask the right questions. Consider changing from asking for the things you want to honestly seeking what He wants for you. Then as you learn His will, pray that you will be led to have the strength to fulfill it.
    How are prayers answered?
    The manual says: (p. 37) Our sincere prayers are always answered. Sometimes the answer may be no, because what we have asked for would not be best for us. Sometimes the answer is yes, and we have a warm, comfortable feeling about what we should do (see D&C 9:8–9). Sometimes the answer is “wait a while.” Our prayers are always answered at a time and in a way that the Lord knows will help us the most.

    But it’s more complicated than that, isn’t it?!

    I guarantee that some reading this today are thinking why does she pray for x...a job, a house, a baby and gets it and I don’t? Why is her child, mother, husband healed and mine not? Why does she pray when she’s lonely and her neighbor, visiting teacher, or friend call or show up and mine doesn’t? Why does she find her keys, her wallet, her child in danger and I don’t/didn’t?

    I think the point here is that just as we are individuals, answers to prayers are very individual. How we speak to God and how he speaks to us may not be the same as for others.

    Elder Scott says…
    Often when we pray for help with a significant matter, Heavenly Father will give us gentle promptings that require us to think, exercise faith, work, at times struggle, then act. It is a step-by-step process that enables us to discern inspired answers.

    I have discovered that what sometimes seems an impenetrable barrier to communication is a giant step to be taken in trust. Seldom will you receive a complete response all at once. It will come a piece at a time, in packets, so that you will grow in capacity.

    As each piece is followed in faith, you will be led to other portions until you have the whole answer. That pattern requires you to exercise faith in our Father’s capacity to respond. While sometimes it’s very hard, it results in significant personal growth.
    Heavenly Father teaches us general principles and adapts his tutoring to our own individual hearts and circumstances.

    It’s important figure it out for ourselves, with the help of patterns that emerge from other’s experiences.

    When I feel that prayer is not working for me, I remember that these are some of the answers I get. If you are struggling with a particular issue right now, one of these may apply. Think about your prayers lately.

    It’s not time.
    It’s not good for you.
    They have their agency.
    You haven’t studied it out.
    You need to grow, to learn more.
    You are not asking for the right thing.
    You don’t see the big picture and I do.
    I’ve already told you the answer.
    I tell you often in small ways you don’t recognize.
    You need to repent of a sin.
    You are too distracted to see.
    There is too much noise in your life.
    Your heart, sincerity, or faith is missing.
    You have yet to surrender your will to me.
    You hear me but you don’t do as I direct.
    Your pride gets in the way.
    You don’t come to me often enough.
    You need to fast first.
    You need to put off the selfish natural woman.
    You’re not specific enough.
    My grace is sufficient.
    Relax, all things will work together for your good.

    Now please, don’t misunderstand. He’s not saying I can’t hear you or you’re not good enough. He’s saying I love you, I know you. I want you to grow. I’m in charge here. Trust me, repent and come unto me and it will be enough. Don’t give up.

    Listen to these words from Elder Scott. Listen for the reassurances.
    Should you ever feel distanced from our Father, it could be for many reasons. Whatever the cause, as you continue to plead for help, He will guide you to do that which will restore your confidence that He is near….

    Often when we pray for help with a significant matter, Heavenly Father will give us gentle promptings that require us to think, exercise faith, work, at times struggle, then act. It is a step-by-step process that enables us to discern inspired answers….

    He will always hear your prayers and will invariably answer them. However, His answers will seldom come while you are on your knees praying, even when you may plead for an immediate response. Rather, He will prompt you in quiet moments when the Spirit can most effectively touch your mind and heart. Hence, you should find periods of quiet time to recognize when you are being instructed and strengthened. His pattern causes you to grow.
    Did you catch it...
    He will guide you.
    Have confidence.
    He is near.
    He always hears your prayers.
    He will prompt you in quiet moments.

    This scripture in Psalms 46:10 is often the answer to my prayers:
    “Be still and know that I am God.”

    Instruction from your Relief Society presidency
    Our focus is on love, unity, and friendship. The first Sunday of every month is a time for instruction regarding our sacred duties as members of the Relief Society. So in thinking about prayer we'd like to ask:
    1. Pray for greater love and unity in our ward. Seek for what you can do personally and in your calling.

    2. Regarding Visiting Teaching and prayer

      - Pray every day for your sisters, by name, in your individual prayers and when appropriate in your family prayers. Let your, and your family’s, faith add power to your prayers. Listen for inspiration to come regarding a sister.
      - Pray together as a partnership, before visiting, for each sister individually and the specific needs she may have.
      - Bring the Spirit into her home by teaching the gospel and giving the message, don’t just show up and chat.
      - Ask to pray before leaving, if it feels right. It is not required. But do it as often as you can.
      - Let her choose who prays.
      - Pray specifically for the needs you heard while there, bless her home with love and unity.
      - As a sister visited, ask your visiting teachers to fast and pray with you for specific needs. You may put your name in the temple and have faithful strangers pray for you, but you may also ask two friends to pray for you.
    Remember this
    We learn to pray by praying. One can devote countless hours to examining the experiences of others, but nothing penetrates the human heart as does a personal, fervent prayer and its heaven-sent response.
    ~President Thomas S. Monson, Oct. 2004

    Alma 37: 37 - Counsel with the Lord in all thy doings, and he will direct thee for good; yea, when thou liest down at night lie down unto the Lord, that he may watch over you in your sleep; and when thou risest in the morning let thy heart be full of thanks unto God; and if ye do these things, ye shall be lifted up at the last day.

    Additional reading, well-worth the time: BYU Devotional regarding prayer, by Cynthia Compton. She explores two ideas about conversing with God: experimenting with the requests we make and using our prayers to consecrate.

    e

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    Monday, May 24, 2010

    Compassionate Service Meals

    Often to show our love and kindness we volunteer or ask to help take a meal to a family in need.

    Here are some tips to remember when providing a meal, courtesy of Mormon Times, Putting Care into Compassionate Service. (See the recipe for Turkey casserole too.)
    • Be prompt and reliable when it comes to bringing in meals. Don't delay or forget.
    • Do your homework on the family or individuals you are attempting to serve. Find out how many are in the household, who has strong likes and dislikes, who has allergies to what. ·
    • Keep it clean. This is not the time to taste the soup or sneeze on the salad. Don't let little Johnny taste the spaghetti or poke the cake.
    • Keep it simple and recognizable. A fancy French dinner is less likely to please than something familiar and comforting like a roast and potatoes.
    • Make it easy. Put the dinner in disposable containers that don't need to be returned.
    • Deliver instructions with the meals. How long does it need to cook and at what temperature? Is there ice cream in the dessert that needs to stay frozen? 
    Related article: Freezer Meals Are Frozen Assets
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      Sunday, May 9, 2010

      Sunday's RS Lesson, by Devon Linn

      Relief Society is meant to be a place 
      where sisters will feel needed, included, 
      valued and loved regardless of their circumstances.

      Bonnie D. Parkin, Spring 2003

      We had a fun time on Sunday during Relief Society having all of the sisters join us from Primary and Young Women, and we missed any of you that weren’t there! We hope you can make it next time. We talked about how we are all unique and different sisters, and that we are each a vital part of our Relief Society and to one another. We love and need you each of you!

      Needed, included, valued and loved
      Our focus of this year for our Valley Forge 1st Ward Relief Society is love, friendship and unity. Our heart’s desire is that every sister indeed feel needed, included, valued and loved.

      The best way we know to do this is to serve cake and allow time for chit-chat...um, wait...yes that too, but really it's through our activities and visiting teaching.

      Devon quoted Sister Beck, “Visiting teaching becomes the Lord’s work when our focus is on people rather than percentages. In reality, visiting teaching is never finished. It is more a way of life than a task” (Julie B. Beck, “Relief Society: A Sacred Work,Ensign, Nov. 2009, 114).

      Teaching and ministering
      Visiting teaching is made up of 2 parts: Teaching and ministering. The teaching part can be checked off as done for the month but ministering is on-going through the month. As partners, seek inspiration on how to work together for the good of your sisters. Sometimes you will visit separately, sometimes send a note, make a call or text to stay in touch. Think often of your sisters and pray every day for them.

      When you report to your supervisor, please tell them a little about how your sisters are doing. Keep confidences, but do let us know more so we can help one another.

      A circle of sisters
      President Boyd K. Packer, President of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, has called each ward Relief Society a “circle of sisters.”
      Each sister, no matter where in that circle she stands, can look to either side and feel the spirit of inspiration coming back as she extends the gentle hand of charity to those on either side. …
      …You will serve your organization, your cause—the Relief Society—this great circle of sisters. Your every need shall be fulfilled, now, and in the eternities; every neglect will be erased; every abuse will be corrected. All of this can come to you, and come quickly, when you devote yourself to Relief Society.

      Sister Beck has said, “It has been my experience that each ward Relief Society has the capacity to give to one another the support that is needed. ...If we seek and receive the help of the Holy Ghost, all answers can be found in each circle of sisters.

      Sisters, please join hands with those around you so that we may all feel included, valued and loved.

      Thanks for the words of instruction and love, Devon.

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      Monday, April 26, 2010

      Fostering Trust and Having Compassion

      In a previous post, I introduced the idea that followers expect four things from their leaders: Trust, Compassion, Stability, and Hope. [Read part 1 first, then part 3.]

      Let’s look at the first two.

      Trust
      Trust is the foundation of leadership. It means honesty, integrity and respect. Lasting friendships, loving marriages, smooth collaboration with coworkers, successful businesses, are all built on trust.

      How do you convince a person of your honesty? They just know. Over time others see your behavior and know they can depend on you.

      Another key to building trust is being authentic or real, even if that means letting those around you see your flaws. Didn’t you love the few personal words President Monson had to say about his wife during conference. Don’t you cringe at the phoniness of most politicians as they try to create a false trust. Don’t you cherish those who see you for what you are and love you anyway.

      Compassion
      We all know what this is...caring, friendship, and love. Caring and compassion have such an impact on the lives of those around. When others care about us we are more likely to be more productive, stay with an organization, and reflect that caring to others.

      Visiting teaching is where we do this best. Be there for your sisters. Devon Linn would love to visit everyone in the ward and take dinner and lift everyone. She can’t, of course. But you can. Be a leader in this special calling.

      President Monson sums it up, “ Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved.”

      (To be continued)

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      Friday, April 16, 2010

      Are we there yet?

      By Devon Linn

      This probably won’t come as too much of shock to anyone, but I’m a still quite a few blocks away from perfection. I'm not expecting to be even close to perfect yet, but I keep hoping that I’ll see a sign somewhere that will tell me I’m at least getting a little closer on my journey (actually, something like the sign up above would be very helpful.) And luckily I don’t have to do it all on my own. The Lord helps continually by sending the Holy Ghost to let me know the ways I can improve in my life. But what can be frustrating at times is that I so often fail to follow these wonderful, divine promptings I receive that tell me what I need to fix. These promptings sometimes come to me while listening to General Conference, or a lesson in church on Sunday, or reading my scriptures, and then I usually do try to be better for at least a few days but then….*poof* they're just gone and I've forgotten the prompting and moved onto something else I need to work on. And I don’t think I forget because I’m lazy or don’t really want to be better, but it’s more because life just seems to get too darn busy and my brain just has too much going on to remember everything (or sometimes anything at all!)

      I’m sure everyone has failed at least once or twice to follow a prompting (but just once or twice, right?). Usually for me, it begins with listening to a lesson or a talk and thinking, “Yes! I can do that and be better! I can improve in my efforts to ______________ (fill in the blank: pray more, work on family history, judge less, prioritize my time better, study my scriptures, etc etc etc).” But when it comes time to actually and consistently IMPLEMENT the change, I find myself too busy wiping peanut butter and jelly out of a 2 year old’s hair and simultaneously trying not to yell at my 3 year old who has just broken another lamp (true story) and I’m just so busy and exhausted that I’ve totally forgotten the prompting I received in the first place. Does this happen to everyone? Luckily the Lord knows and loves us, so he sends a lot of “reminder” promptings, because He just won't give up on us.

      So when my wonderful visiting teachers came this week and read this quote from General Conference, it really hit home for me. It is from Sister Beck’s talk, and she said,

      Good women always have a desire to know if they are succeeding. In a world where the measures of success are often distorted, it is important to seek appreciation and affirmation from proper sources. To paraphrase a list found in Preach My Gospel, we are doing well when we develop attributes of Christ and strive to obey His gospel with exactness. We are doing well when we seek to improve ourselves and do our best. We are doing well when we increase faith and personal righteousness, strengthen families and homes, and seek out and help others who are in need. We know we are successful if we live so that we qualify for, receive, and know how to follow the Spirit. When we have done our very best, we may still experience disappointments, but we will not be disappointed in ourselves. We can feel certain that the Lord is pleased when we feel the Spirit working through us. Peace, joy, and hope are available to those who measure success properly.

      Oh, if I could only read this quote every day! Sister Beck’s words were exactly what I needed to hear to re-commit myself to try harder and keep working in the right direction. It’s not important to be hard on ourselves if we aren't perfect already, but it is important that we are trying to improve ourselves every day. I love that Sister Beck specifically mentions trying to develop attributes of Christ, because that goal seems to encompass all the other promptings I receive. I also love that she pointed out that doing our best still won’t keep disappointments away, because that’s just not how the plan works, but at least we won’t be disappointed in ourselves when we’ve followed the Spirit and done our best. I have felt the peace and hope that comes when we feel the Spirit working through us, and it is worth every effort I make to strive to feel that love and joy as often as I can while on this earth.

      I love having the Gospel in my life, and I am truly grateful for promptings from the Spirit because I know I need to keep trying to be better. It can be hard to not let the world define success for us, but rather to let the Holy Ghost tell us when we have succeeded in our efforts to become more like Christ. I know that I won’t be able to reach perfection tomorrow or follow every good intention and good desire that I have, (in fact, probably by next General Conference time I’ll need another big kick in the pants to re-commit myself to implementing the promptings I receive again!), but I will keep pushing forward on my journey. Our Heavenly Father loves each of us, and He also NEEDS each of us to keep working hard to improve ourselves so that we can also help lift those around us. Women have the capacity to do so much good, and I am grateful to be surrounded by so many amazing women in the church, all who are on the same “road” so we can help each other on the journey!

      If any of you has a suggestion on how you remember to implement changes you receive from promptings, feel free to use the comments portion to share your experiences. I'd love to hear other sisters' ideas on how we can be more successful in our efforts!

      Monday, April 5, 2010

      Visiting Teaching: Joy in the Lord's Errand

      I talked with a Relief Society member about a visit she had made.
      It was to a woman who would soon lose her husband suddenly and tragically. In recent years the woman had only intermittent contact with Relief Society.

      The visitor prepared by stopping at a shop to buy flowers. It was a season when the tulips were stacked for sale in many colors. She chose one color, her favorite, but then felt impressed to try another.
      She didn’t know why she selected yellow, but she did.

      When she presented the yellow tulips at the door, the woman smiled and said, “Come. See my backyard garden.” It was filled with yellow tulips in full bloom.
      The woman said, “I was just wondering if I should cut some for the house. But now I can leave them and enjoy them a little longer in my garden because you brought me these.” They chatted pleasantly as if they were old friends.
      From that impression to bring some flowers and to choose yellow tulips, that visiting teacher had evidence that she was on the Lord’s errand.
      When she told me, I could hear the joy in her voice.

      When she spoke with me, she didn’t know what the widow felt after the visit. But if the widow felt that God loved her and that He had sent an angel to her, the visiting teacher had helped her move down the road to success in the Lord’s eyes. That visitor may verify success from her faithful effort only in the world to come.
      Elder Eyring, The Enduring Legacy of Relief Society

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      Tuesday, March 23, 2010

      Visiting Teaching - Very Funny

      Good thing we can laugh at ourselves...

      Watch the Visiting Teaching Movie

      The music is the best part...and the ending, of course.

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      Monday, January 25, 2010

      Role as Teachers a Sacred and Holy Calling

      No greater responsibility can rest upon any man, 
      than to be a teacher of God's children.
      ~David O. McKay

      In this Church of teachers, “we find ourselves in the roles as teachers from the moment we take our first breath of life,” said Elder L. Tom Perry of the Quorum of Twelve Apostles, addressing eight new presidents of Missionary Training Centers, and seven new visitors center directors and their wives gathered for training prior to embarking on their worldwide assignments.

      He reiterated the 5 basics of teaching offered by Elder Jeffrey R. Holland in a Worldwide Leadership Broadcast a few years ago.

      1. Prepare to be teachers - The Lord will put words in your mouth if you spend the time needed in preparation.

      2. Teach from the scriptures - Let us be certain our study and preparation will come from the words of the prophets.


      3. Teach by the Spirit - When [revelation and inspiration] comes be receptive to that still small voice when it is directing you. The Lord will give us the inspiration when needed to do His assigned work.

      4. Help the learner assume responsibility for learning - We cannot in any way be offended or get angry or disappointed that we have worked so hard on our lesson, and it doesn't seem the students are with us. We just have to be patient and loving. More is happening in their hearts than we think.

      5. Always end your teaching by bearing testimony to the truthfulness of the gospel - The Lord will be with you as you go forward to teach.

      Read the full Church News article.

      Let’s resolve to be better teachers at home, in FHE, in our visiting teaching, and in our callings.

      Ellen

      Tuesday, January 12, 2010

      Visiting Teaching Is a Way of Life


      Ever get too focused on “checking off” visiting teaching on your to do list?

      In this Church News article Visiting teaching is a ‘way of life’ we are reminded “partners should work together, focus on people and not percentages”.

      General Relief Society President, Julie Beck says:
      Visiting teaching is one of the best ways we can fulfill our lifelong responsibilities to increase our faith and personal righteousness, strengthen families and homes and seek out and help those in need.

      The leadership skills you need—to be a minister and to be a teacher, those are both Christlike skills. They are leadership abilities the Savior had. He was always a teacher. He was always a minister.
      In essence, visiting teachers have those two major responsibilities: to teach and to minister. Most women in the Church understand the teaching part. Visiting a sister with a lesson each month is the teaching, but it is not always ministering.
      Sometimes, instead of a visit, a sister needs an extra meal or someone to take her children for an hour. Sometimes a sister needs a flower, a note or a phone call or an invitation to go to a social event. Sometimes a sister needs somebody just knowing her family has the flu.
      Visiting teaching is often hard because it is not showy. In visiting teaching the best work you do no one knows about. You get points only in heaven.
      Sisters, this is between you and the Lord. He is not here, so you take care of the sisters for Him.

      Let’s be more thoughtful and inspired this year in how we minister to each other. Visiting teachers need to work together to find inspired ways to watch over their sisters.

      Ellen

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